Well, let me start by saying that if I went out more this would never be an option. I revert to this online dating because of the ease of being able to meet people and hopefully get to know them before being subjected to a couple hours of bad company.
Now, I have been on and off this site for a few years - it is a major site and I am sure most have heard of it 'Plenty of Fish' which is definitely a silly name but what can you do, it is free which is a huge plus for me.
Now, they are becoming a little greedy by charging for some stupid features. I would never pay to go on a dating site. Period.
Here is my overall opinion of this site, it is a test of my patience. Now I know the downside to dating online is that people typically tend to be more 'forward' behind a computer then they are in person so that is a great challenge. So many people let their ugly show on this site, they celebrate their worse personality flaws and really should be ashamed.
Most of the people are not looking for a mate but they are shopping, shopping like you would for clothing or jewelry. Of course I agree physical appearance is very important but what makes this hard is that some people will at least look and talk to someone they consider marginally out of their standard but most of these people think they are God's gift and want perfection they become disappointed when they cannot find it on line.
Online is not where the most attractive, perfect people hang out. Sorry to disappoint.
Here are some pointers for the men on Plenty of fish:
1- Stop talking about women and complaining in your 'about me' section. No one cares that you think every girl you dated is a psycho and if the women are smart they will realize the problem is probably you.
2- Put your clothes on. No, really. I am sure you are proud that you work out and feel good about your body, but we can tell you work out through clothes, really it is apparent so you don't need to strip down. You will not find a soul mate this way, and we both know what you will attract. If you attract someone asking for a picture of your man meat then don't complain about it on your profile. You asked for it. Also if a 'good girl' looks at your pics you will likely not hear from her.
3- If someone 'Favorites' you, don't complain about it. Most women want the man to make the first move, so we favorite you, kind of like we would stare or give you the eye in a bar to let you know we are somewhat interested. Just go with it, stop bitching about it like a toddler.
4- Try and read what you wrote prior to publishing it. The red line under a word means it is misspelled. Now, I am not perfect when it comes to spelling or punctuation but I let the computer help me there and so should you. Also if you read it and think you sound 'cool' you are probably coming off as a D-Bag to the women who read it.
5- Self portraits where you act like you are off in thought are TACKY. I cannot express this enough, when you take a picture of yourself in the car, on your couch or in your bed and act like you are doing something else and not taking your picture is so ridiculous and kind of pathetic. The worse is when you act like your either sleeping or driving. Stop it. Look at the damn camera and smile. Don't put your angry face on, it looks dumb.
6- Pictures where you white out kids faces or ex girl friends faces are also a no no. It looks horrible, either crop it or take a picture of yourself. Most of the time these pictures are you from years ago anyway so stop being deceitful.
7- It is never okay to think you are a catch because you don't have kids. It is actually offensive to anyone who is a parent and comes by your profile. You are happy to not have kids, great but it lacks class to scream it all over your dating web page. It also shows a certain amount of ignorance.
8- Never, ever assume it is okay to email a woman and ask her anything questionable like if she is 'horny' or if she has ever done a threesome, or if she likes oral sex or masturbation. Seriously did you just discover your penis? Haven't you grown past puberty? Who asks women stuff like that? What makes this worse is the men who then try and justify it. They say they just want an adult conversation, or they are just 'honest'. Don't hide your ignorance behind a redeeming quality such as honesty. Your a pig, we all know most men are but have some common sense, and a little respect and do not actually let your pig squeal at every woman you talk to online. If the woman does not have naked pictures up, and nothing on her page indicating that is okay then seriously keep it to yourself otherwise you will never ever find out the answers.
Now, that is as far as I am going to go with this and I could on for much longer but I will stop here. These are the things I see on that site about 90% of the time. I do not have any hopes of finding a normal person on here but if you are out there looking around, this site will take an exercise in patience. Yes it is free but the quality of people is very similar to dating straight off Craigslist.
My scale of 1-10 this site for ease of use gets a 8.5 and for quality of the members gets a 3.
I don't know if online dating ever pans out but because I am an optimist I keep giving it a shot every so often.
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